HEY THERE! I'M MEL

I love nature, long walks, books, travelling  & cooking!

I'm an INFJ South African living in the Dutch countryside.
I have a cute, cozy home with my partner (also South African).

I'm a kick-ass change coach ready to help you overcome the fear & clear the confusion so you can thrive & transform through your transition.

#growthroughwhatyougothrough

I BELIEVE ...

  1. Being true to ourselves and fully expressing our uniqueness, our thoughts and feelings take courage. 
  2. Change and growth are part of life. We are always evolving and when we become comfortable and embrace our own metamorphosis, amazing things happen! 
  3. We all deserve to be free to be ourselves and let our light shine w/o worrying what others think. We are meant to each be free and respect each other’s freedom. 
  4. By understanding ourselves, what makes us special and unique results in transformation. Not being afraid to show this side to the world because this is where our true power lies. Connection to self, higher power and your purpose.

THE SHORT VERSION OF A LONG STORY ...

Around 2015 I began realizing that I was unhappy and my life felt disconnected somehow. My career wasn’t fulfilling and my purpose felt foggy. I was in a relationship where I felt unable to be the person I truly was or wanted to be. I felt stifled and that I couldn’t be authentic due to the fear of not being accepted. I felt that my personality, belief systems and values were all in misalignment. I knew I didn’t want the life I had, but I didn’t even know what I wanted. I just knew I needed to do something to change the situation I was in.

My friend recommended I see a coach to help me make sense of my relationship and what I wanted out of my life. I saw a therapist and a coach at the same time. My coach helped me to discover more of who I was, my values, boundaries and what I really wanted in love and life. Coaching helped me become a leader of my own life, and not let others define my path for me. The coaching experience helped me to start defining who I was as an individual and what I wanted to achieve with my life. It was exciting but also a very difficult time of self-discovery (Think PREPARE phase). Through coaching and joint therapy sessions, I came to the realization that I needed to make the courageous decision that would turn my world upside down, but one that would allow me to begin to heal and start living a life aligned with who I was at my core. I decided it was time to put myself first, embrace change, discover more of me and heal myself.

During a deeply painful and emotionally draining divorce, I spent a lot of time on my own, with myself, experiencing the pain and healing (Think PURGE phase). I started searching for answers to more of my questions. After a year of internal reflection and healing, I was ready to enter the world again(Think PLAN phase). I was ready to be the authentic, whole individual I now felt I was closer to becoming. I was ready to lead myself & others into their full potential.

I am now living on a completely different continent, in a new career & with a partner that is loving, accepting - and we're busy building a family! (Think PROPEL phase)

AND I'VE ALSO LEARNT ALL THESE LESSONS...

Many more than one time. So I thought I share some of my biggest ones with you here (so you can skip over them yourself!)

2016 - STUCK, UNHAPPY & DEPRESSED

Lessons Learned: You can't change other people and they're not there to make you happy.  Being inauthentic and "people-pleasing" can lead to a life of stress, overwhelm & confusion.

2018 - DIVORCED & FREE

Lessons Learned: Asking for a divorce and leaving a marriage is one of the toughest things you'll do in life. It also has the potential to set you heal, embrace YOU and find peace in yourself.

2019 - "THE NEW ADVENTURE"

Lessons Learned: Wherever you go in life, you go with yourself. In other words, you can't escape YOU, your problems or your past. However, self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-confidence can take you anywhere you want to go.

2020 - ONWARD & UPWARD

Lessons Learned: Change and growth will always be part of life, so best you get comfortable. Embracing the messy, often unpredictable rhythms of life allows you to move through the "lows" faster and with more ease.

Any of these sound familiar? DM me and let me know...

WHICH STAGE OF CHANGE ARE YOU IN?

1.

PREPARE

Gain clarity, overcome doubt, fear, resistance & loss.

Change is the only constant in life, and we’re usually rarely ready for it. And whether it’s a relationship ending, a career path coming to a close, or moving away from your home - we usually can’t see how we will get through it. You are on the doorstep of change - whether you know it or sense it. 

I help you prepare for change by evaluating life now and what needs to change to help you make sense of NOW & what's about to change. I'll help you gain acceptance of what is changing so we can look forward, not back.

2.

PURGE

Let go of past resentments, beliefs, identities & expectations to pave way for the new.

Moving through change effectively means evaluating and learning from the experience - so that we don’t make the same mistakes again. This phase is all about “purging” all the stuff that's not working for you! It’s a very emotionally healing time & can be a time of intense shedding and renewal.

I help you purge during change by eliminating everything that is no longer serving you, keeping you stuck & feeling lost. I help you with baby steps to taking more courageous action as well as handling emotions and disruption.

3.

PREPARE

Become energised by designing a future you are excited about!

You’re past the real”low point” of the change cycle & you’re ready to start looking forward. You have more clarity, peace and inner trust. You’re ready to start putting your feelers out into the world and take “one step at a time” to move your life away from what was  is gone to what is available to you.

I help you plan for after change by evaluating your next move in an authentic way. Get excited about life, by visualising & planning to create the “after”. I help you with accountability on actions & habits to find more joy.

4.

PROPEL

Grow into a life with more authenticity, purpose, freedom & rock solid confidence  

By this stage, you are on fire! You’ve gone through the lowest lows, you’ve gone deep within and you’re feeling more YOU than ever before. You are ready to reach your next level and live life as your highest self. You can see yourself in your future & are moving forward everyday to make it a reality.

I help you propel yourself in life after change by stepping into your highest self, celebrating your achievements & championing your successes.

READY TO WORK TOGETHER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE?

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THRIVE THROUGH WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH

Transform and Thrive through Transition is a private 1:1 coaching program to support you through major transitions. Whether you are contemplating change, or in the throes of it, I’ll walk with you to help you not only survive change, but thrive because of it. 

IT'S TIME TO MAKE THAT CHANGE YOUR
SOUL HAS BEEN CRAVING FOR SO LONG!

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and get the help you need to clear the confusion, ease the fear,
and experience more freedom and peace from making the changes you know you need to.

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